As a father, of course, we must be able to provide adequate guidance and direction so that he can be a good human being and have the noble character that we want later when they grow up.
Age 0 years is a critical period for a child’s brain development. At this stage, the child experiences a golden period in which brain development occurs quickly and quickly. At this time, even a child’s brain has the ability to absorb new experiences faster than a 3-year-old child. Therefore, you must not be wrong in educating or setting an example for your children.
Tips for success on how to educate a good child has many methods. How much the success rate of the method applied certainly depends on how effective each parent contributes to their children. So that you are not confused when giving instructions to children, here are some ways to educate children who are good, right, and wise that you can try.
1. Be kind and show sincere affection
As parents, it’s always good to be kind to children. Because only with soft words, a child will listen to the words of his parents. In addition to demanding that they be kind to children, parents must also give sincere and complete love to children. An example is to tell your child that he really loves him. Hugs or kisses can also be a stimulus to the soul of a child that you can do.
2. Be a good listener and give support
Maybe your son is bothered by his classmates. As a good father, try to approach the child to tell his story. At that time, you must be a good listener and can listen to all your child’s complaints and complaints. This is the key to success in building children’s confidence.
Provide positive support and complete with skills to avoid joking with friends and the ability to socialize well. For example, you can teach your child to avoid teasing his friends. For example, if a friend says “You’re ugly,” the best answer is “Let me be smart.” Children who are used to making fun will be bored with the answer because the temptation is not taken seriously and they do not receive the answers they want, such as crying, complaining or being angry.
3. Develop creativity by playing together
Teaching children does not mean having to always make “new rules” that are not fun for him, but also play together. Let him learn something from you in a way that is much more fun, like playing, dancing or playing music together.
4. Avoid using the word “Do not”
This is one of the mistakes often made by parents. When children do experiments that could be a little dangerous, parents usually say “do not do it” to their children. In fact, if parents talk too often to their children, this word can have negative consequences that prevent the child from developing his or her creativity. To replace the word “do not”, you should use another word that means more positive. Examples of cases, such as a child who ran, then the package says “Do not run!” In reality, what the mother means by “walks” but the child does not understand this point. So the phrase that should be used is “Just Walk” or “Slow down” and so on.
5. Be a role model and an idol for your child
In general, every child has a “superhero” idol in the world of imagination. But in the real world, he also wants to have it. As a parent, you try as much as you can to be what the child wants and can always count on. One solution is to do everything you think is best for your children.
6. Give a sense of comfort
Cultivate a feeling of comfort when the children are with you. Invite a small discussion among your classmates. For children to feel comfortable, you should not be the one who knows everything that makes you feel like you’re dominating the conversation. Make him a friend who also needs your listening and your sympathy.
7. Cultivate respect
Teach him to always respect everyone, the elderly and peers. It is important to grow from an early age, because later, when he grows up, he will be able to respect everyone.
8. Teach responsibility
Teach and remind your child to always have a sense of responsibility towards himself. For example, if it’s time to go to school, he has to leave. If he asks why he should. Give reasons that can be understood by him.
9. Learn to apologize
To apologize for an error is a noble and chivalrous act. Teach your child to apologize for the mistakes he or she might make to his peers so that he realizes that what he has done is a dishonorable act.
10. Do not be afraid
Older people generally tend to take easy “shortcuts”. In addition to lying, parents also frighten children so often that they want to obey immediately. It is a misbehavior of a parent because, besides being able to be a kind of trauma when he is an adult, it also entails the independence of the child so that he can limit his creativity.
11. Don’t be lied to
Like fear, children who are often lied to as a child will become accustomed to the lies instilled by their parents. When he grows up, he will naturally assume that lying is a natural thing to do because everyone including his parents also do it.
12. Don’t say loud and threatening
Many people say that children are no different from blank white paper. Whether a child also depends on what his parents teach. Therefore try to avoid the strongest words, threaten or even yell at children. If your child’s behavior might sound naughty or stubborn, try to hold back your emotions and speak softly and wisely.
13. Teach openness
When you have free time together with the baby. Invite to talk and try to find out about their daily lives. Whatever he does, what makes him happy, what makes him sad or even what makes him excited. With the opening of children, you can also find ways to find out the nature of the child as well as being an inspiration for parents. Good and wise parents are parents who can take experience and lessons from anyone, including from their own children.